Bringing sex toys into your relationship doesn’t have to be a dramatic “we need to talk.” It can be playful. Flirty. Low-pressure. Like: “Hey… want to try something fun tonight?”
Whether you’re totally new to toys or you’ve used them solo and want to make them a we thing, this guide is here to help you introduce sex toys in a way that feels exciting, comfortable, and connected.
Quick links to browse together:
Step 1: Start with the “why” (not the toy)
This part matters. A lot.
When someone hears “sex toy,” they sometimes hear:
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“Am I not enough?”
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“Am I doing something wrong?”
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“Are you bored?”
So lead with something reassuring and honest:
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“I love what we already do, I just want to explore more together.”
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“I think it could make things feel even better for both of us.”
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“This isn’t a replacement. It’s a bonus.”
Vibe check: Toys are not competition. They’re a shared upgrade.
Step 2: Make it a shared, flirty decision
Instead of surprising your partner with a random toy on the nightstand (hot in movies… risky in real life), invite them into it.
Try:
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“Want to pick something out together?”
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“I saw a couples set that looks fun, can I show you?”
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“Would you be open to trying something that boosts sensation for both of us?”
Pro tip: Browse the site together like it’s a menu. Keep it light. Laugh. Add things to a wishlist. Build anticipation.
Step 3: Choose a “team-friendly” first toy
For your first couples toy experience, pick something that:
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feels intuitive
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doesn’t require a ton of instructions
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adds sensation without taking over the whole moment
That’s why We-Vibe products are so popular for couples, they’re designed specifically for shared play and connection.
Three Couple-Favorite Options to Start With (Featured Picks)
1) We-Vibe Chorus Pro (Couples Vibrator)
The Chorus Pro is a couples vibrator designed to be worn during partnered sex, stimulating the clitoris, G-spot, and penis at the same time, aka: shared pleasure, synced up.
Why couples love it
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Built for together play (not “one person watches the other use a toy”)
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Helps both partners feel more stimulation at once
How to introduce it
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Pitch it as: “This is for us, at the same time.”
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Use it the first time during a relaxed night when you’re not rushed
Testimonial (customer-style)
“It didn’t feel awkward, it felt like we were more connected. The stimulation for both of us was immediate, and it turned into our new favorite ‘let’s make tonight extra’ toy.”
2) We-Vibe Date Night Set (Nova 2 + Pivot)
If you want a simple, fun, no-pressure way to explore, this set is perfect. It includes Nova 2 (a rabbit-style vibrator for the vulva) and Pivot (a vibrating penis ring). The Nova 2 has adjustable fit and dual motors with multiple patterns/intensity levels.
Why couples love it
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Two toys = both partners get something to enjoy
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Great for foreplay and “let’s take our time” nights
How to introduce it
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Frame it as: “A set for both of us, no one gets left out.”
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Try one toy first, then add the second later (no need to do everything at once)
3) We-Vibe Golden Moments 2 (Chorus + Womanizer Premium 2)
This is the “special occasion” set, two luxury favorites in one: We-Vibe Chorus plus the Womanizer Premium 2, paired together as a gift-worthy duo.
Why couples love it
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One for “together” (Chorus), one for “solo or partnered foreplay” (Womanizer)
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Ideal if you want options depending on the night
How to introduce it
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Make it an event: candles, music, no phones, no rushing
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Try the Womanizer as foreplay first, then the Chorus when you’re both fully warmed up
Step 4: Set the vibe (and keep expectations relaxed)
The first time you use a toy together might be:
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mind-blowing
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funny
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a little awkward
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all of the above
That’s normal. Treat it like experimenting, not performing.
Try saying:
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“Let’s just explore, no pressure to finish.”
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“Tell me what feels good and I’ll adjust.”
Best tip: Let the person receiving sensation be the “navigator.” They control placement, pressure, and pace.
Step 5: Use lube + communicate like it’s sexy (because it is)
Lube makes toys feel smoother and better. And communication doesn’t have to be clinical.
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“More pressure / less pressure.”
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“Stay right there.”
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“Slower… don’t move.”
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“Yes. Exactly like that.”
That’s it. That’s the script.
Quick “First Toy Together” Game Plan
If you want an easy starter routine:
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Pick a toy together (or pick one from the list above)
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Start with foreplay (kissing + touch)
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Add lube
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Start on low
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Check in with one sentence: “More, less, or perfect?”
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Keep it playful..laughing is allowed and encouraged
FAQ: Introducing Sex Toys Into Your Relationship
How do I bring up sex toys without hurting my partner’s feelings?
Lead with reassurance: you love what you already have and want to explore together, this is an add-on, not a replacement.
What’s the best first sex toy for couples?
A couples vibrator or a couples set that includes something for both partners is often easiest, like the We-Vibe Chorus Pro or Date Night Set.
What if my partner feels nervous or embarrassed?
Go slow. Offer to browse together, start with something simple, and keep the first try low-pressure (no “goal,” just exploration).
Can we use sex toys even if one of us is inexperienced?
Absolutely. Toys can actually make communication easier because you’re learning together.
Do we need lube when using toys together?
It’s strongly recommended, especially for comfort and better sensation.
Make it about connection
The best part of introducing toys isn’t the toy, it’s the teamwork. The “tell me what you like.” The curiosity. The closeness. The laughter. The “wait… do that again.”
When you’re ready to explore, start here:
