Choosing a sex toy shouldn’t feel awkward, confusing, or intimidating.. but for a lot of people, it does. With so many options, shapes, and buzzwords, it’s easy to wonder, “Is this even for me?”
At Fascinations, we hear these questions every single day, and the good news is: there is no “right” body or “wrong” choice. The best sex toy is the one that feels good to you. This guide is here to help you tune into your body, understand your preferences, and choose a toy that feels exciting, not overwhelming.
Start With How Your Body Likes Pleasure
Before looking at products, pause for a moment and think about what you already enjoy.
Ask yourself:
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Do I prefer external stimulation, internal, or both?
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Do I like gentle sensations or stronger pressure?
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Am I sensitive to vibration, or do I need something more powerful?
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Do I want something quick and simple, or something I can explore over time?
There are no wrong answers here, just helpful clues.
If You Prefer External Stimulation
If you’re sensitive, new to toys, or just love external touch, start here. Many people find this the most approachable place to begin.
External toys are great if you:
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Want something non-intimidating
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Prefer quiet, controlled sensations
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Are exploring pleasure at your own pace
These toys are often small, smooth, and easy to use, perfect for beginners or anyone who wants a more relaxed experience.
If You’re Curious About Internal Sensation
If your body enjoys internal touch, there are plenty of options designed to feel comfortable and supportive, not overwhelming.
Look for:
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Slim, tapered shapes
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Soft, flexible silicone
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Simple controls with fewer settings
Starting smaller allows your body to relax and respond naturally. You can always explore more later.
Combination Toys: When You Want a Little of Both
Some bodies enjoy a mix of internal and external stimulation. Combination toys are designed to support that, but they don’t have to be complicated.
Beginner-friendly versions focus on:
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Gentle vibration
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Adjustable angles
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Comfortable proportions
If you’re unsure, our in-store team can help you compare sizes and styles in person.
Bigger doesn’t mean better, and popular doesn’t always mean right for you.
When choosing a toy, think about:
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Size: Smaller is often more comfortable, especially at first
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Shape: Curved vs. straight, flexible vs. firm
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Texture: Smooth silicone is ideal for most bodies
Your body’s comfort always comes first.
Materials & Safety (This One’s Important)
Always choose toys made with body-safe materials, like medical-grade silicone. These feel better, last longer, and are safer for your body.
At Fascinations, our team can help you:
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Understand materials
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Choose the right lubricant
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Learn how to clean and care for your toy properly
Shopping In-Store vs. Online (Both Are Totally Valid)
Shopping in-store
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See real sizes and shapes
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Ask questions without judgment
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Get personalized recommendations
Shopping online with local pickup
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Browse privately
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Order discreetly
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Pick up the same day at your nearest store
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Still support a local business
Many customers love starting online and finishing in-store, or vice versa.
Real Questions We Hear All the Time
“What if I pick the wrong one?”
That’s okay. Learning what you like is part of the journey.
“Is it weird to ask for help?”
Never. Our staff is trained, respectful, and here to help; no pressure, no judgment.
“Do I need lubricant?”
Yes. A good water-based lubricant can completely change the experience for the better.
Trust Your Body, We’ve Got the Rest
Your body already knows what it likes. Choosing the right sex toy is about listening to those signals and giving yourself permission to explore without pressure.
Whether you’re brand new or just looking for something that finally fits, Fascinations is here to help! Online or in-store, always discreet, always welcoming.
Visit your local Fascinations store or shop online today and pick up with confidence.
