It’s no secret that BDSM can take your bedroom play to the next level. But, even as a guy, you might not know where to start. After all, the world of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism) is expansive. To help point you in the right direction, check out this guy’s guide to BDSM toys. These particular BDSM toys are a perfect entry into this form of adult play– and you can always find more advanced varieties at FunLove.com, too.
Just remember to get your partner’s consent prior to using any toys that may be outside their comfort zone.
Blindfolds
The first BDSM toy on our list is fairly straightforward, and the least intense. Blindfolds add just a little bit of mystery to whatever play you have planned. The more technical term for this is sensory deprivation. In other words, if your partner can’t see what you’re doing, they may feel the sensations in a more intense way. A blindfolded partner may even make you feel less self-conscious.
Want to take it up a notch? Consider using an open-mouth hood, which covers you or your partner's head, eyes, and nose.
Gags
Another type of sensory deprivation is a gag. A gag keeps your partner from speaking, thus allowing a submissive sensation for the wearer and a powerful kick for the dominant partner. There are many kinds of gags, and most people start with the ball gag.
Before getting down and dirty, make sure your ball gag fits correctly and is thoroughly cleaned. Also, ensure that the submissive partner is healthy enough to use a ball gag (some respiratory issues will worsen with the use of a gag). Finally, set up a non-verbal safeword in case either party needs to take a break.
Related topic: How to Use a Ball Gag Safely
Restraints
Restraints are also commonly used during BDSM play and include handcuffs, ropes, hogtie connectors, thigh cuffs, collars, bondage tape, or other restrictive devices. To use, simply tie the hands together above the head or behind the back. Then, the dominant person can take control of the teasing and other surprises to help increase the level of pleasure of both the receiver and giver. and include handcuffs, ropes, hogtie connectors, thigh cuffs, collars, and bondage tape.
Insider tip: when purchasing restraints make sure you find those made out of soft materials. Leather works great, but you can also opt for pleather, nylon, silicone, and others. Bondage tape is also much safer and less abrasive than other tapes. For instance, a roll of multi-purpose duct tape should not be used during adult sex play.
Impact Play
Floggers and paddles are the next BSDM toys on our list, along with the ever-popular whip. These types of impact toys cause stinging or “thudding” sensations. If the submissive person in your partnership prefers a sting, try a crop (consider the metal variety) or a cane. If a more firm impact is desired, then you’ll want a paddle, flogger, or tawse. If the paddle becomes a favored item, you can amp the level of sensation up a notch by using a paddle with holes.
And as we mentioned before, this type of impact play does cause different degrees of painful pleasure. Which means that you’ll want to experiment in stages and openly discuss what is liked and when it’s time to stop and try something new.
Related topic: Spanking in the Bedroom
Clamps
Clamps go even further to provide a sensually painful sensation. Clitoris and nipple clamps have countless varieties, including one that allows you to change the pressure (micro-pliered). Start with this kind so that you can change it up and experiment. Tweezer and butterfly clamps are more advanced, and exert powerful pressure in your most sensitive areas.
Not interested in clamps? Consider nipple suckers, which increase the sensitivity of your nipples during play.
Candles
The last recommendation on our list is a temperature sensory play favorite. When applied to specific erogenous zones, wax from massage candles provide a warm, dripping sensation that enhance and intensify sexual feelings. Include a blindfold if you want to intensify those sensations even more.
Insider tips: Place a plastic sheet under you during candle play for easy cleanup. You may also want to avoid pouring wax on sensitive pubic areas to avoid unwanted hair loss or an increased risk of exposure to an STD via a microscopic wound.
This guide to BDSM toys is just the *tip* of the iceberg. You’ll find even more useful adult play tips and tricks on our “Let’s Talk Sex” blog.
Order Yours at FunLove.com
Now that you have educated yourself on different BDSM toys, you’re ready to shop and order a few to spice up your love life. At FunLove.com, we offer free delivery on orders of over $89. Plus, your order will be delivered in discreet wrapping right to your door. So, don’t wait to start your BDSM journey!
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